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Religious Abuse: Healing the Damage

After you leave an abusive leader or group, you will wonder “What do I do now?” For many people, that group and leader defined who they were as people as well as pagans. A large part of the healing process … Continue reading

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Religious Abuse: How to Leave

Leaving a religious abuse relationship is like leaving any other abusive relationship. Leaving a pagan religious/magical relationship has its own quirks, but many of the principles are the same. 1. Plan Ahead Unless you are actually living with the leader, … Continue reading

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Religious Abuse: How to See

For those of you that follow religious news, Warren Jeffs, the leader of the Mormon polygamist sect in Texas, was convicted of two counts of sexual assault on a child. As Huffington Post contributor Danielle Tumminio says,”… there is another aspect … Continue reading

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What Are You Doing Now?

One thing I frequently come across when looking through various Pagan, otherkin, occultism, etc resources are some pretty extraordinary claims about what people are, their past, etc. For example: The Elenari claim to be elves from distant worlds with an … Continue reading

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June Link Roundup

Various links of interest from around the web: There’s an incredibly insightful article on Barking Shaman on issues of consent in Neopagan communities. This has been a longstanding issue in the Neopagan community (see our essays on boundaries and professionalism), … Continue reading

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Their Practices and Beliefs Do Not Matter

In Jack Kornfield’s Living Dharma–a collection of teachings of various Theravada masters–one of the recurring themes that you see again and again is that in the matter of spiritual enlightenment, do not worry yourself about what others are doing, simply … Continue reading

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Boundaries, Part III: Speaking for the Gods

In my first essay on Boundaries I talked about the emotional boundaries between people. My second essay on Boundaries talked about how to react when someone comes up to you claiming to have a message from a deity, or even … Continue reading

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Boundaries II: “I have a message from God…”

This is a revised version of an essay that I put together previously. It is part of a series of essays on proper boundaries between yourself and the world around you and within you. In my last essay on Boundaries … Continue reading

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Boundaries, Part I: Emotional Boundaries

This is a revised version of an essay that I put together previously. It is part of a series of essays on proper boundaries between yourself and the world around you and within you. One of the things that we … Continue reading

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