“All improvements must start with me.”
One of the perversities of human interaction is that it is much easier to see the causes of weal and woe in another person than it is to see in ourselves. But to be truly good at working with people, spirits, energy, wights or gods, we must recognize our internal causes of weal and woe. And all improvements must start with us. We can not walk through the world blaming other people for our unhappiness, nor can we credit other people with our happiness. We made decisions that made those things happen. We are responsible for how we feel, how we act and how we react.
“It is not my job or my place to change any one else’s fundemental nature.”
It can be tempting to “fiddle” with someone’s aura, spirit body or fate/orlog/wyrd. Whether they annoy you or you think you know what would make their lives better, it is a possibility open to spirit workers that is not open to the general public.
The problem with doing that, beyond the “That’s bad,” is you don’t know that other person well enough to know whether or not your “improvements” will do them serious harm.
In my belief, people choose the elements of their nature, or their fate, orlog, or wyrd (dependent on your definition) they need to survive and learn in that between time that happens from this life to the next. To “fiddle” with those elements without their permission does them great harm, does you great harm(it entangles your fate/wyrd/orlog with theirs), and is a practice to be avoided.
“Don’t do anything to or with anyone without their express permission or invitation.”
Those of us in the spirit work business often get asked, “My mother/lover/sister/brother/friend/father is sick, can you just____?”
My answer is, NO.
Not because I don’t want to help this person’s mother or lover or sister or brother or friend or father but that the mother or lover or sister or brother or friend or father didn’t ask me. If they don’t ask me, I don’t have permission. Like vampires, I need an invitation into your home/psyche/aura/spirit body.
There are grey areas to this(as with all things in the universe, seen or unseen)
Some people ask for something in their fundemental nature to be changed, usually because it no longer helps them survive and learn, and you have to think long and hard about whether or not you want to help.
Parents often ask for help for their children. I treat that on a case by case basis, dependent on the parent, the child and what is being asked for.
Most of us who do this grueling work do it because we genuinely want to help others. But we can’t just jump in and do that. As much as we might want to.
Your mileage will most certainly vary.